Stories are the common thread connecting each of our life experiences. Your experience of life might be distinct from mine in color, flavor and texture. In our stories, there are more points of familiarity than there are differences.

This is why we love reading how other people have navigated their challenges, overcome their funk or taken their successes in their stride and marched on to greater glory. We need these stories. ‘Monkey see monkey do’ isn’t just a catch phrase.

Each story has distinct elements—subtle or obvious—which make it unlike any other. There is something to learn from every story. Sometimes we also learn what not to do in a situation.

Storytelling is an art. When the story is your own, it often becomes difficult to exercise detachment and move away from the personal focus, essential for an impactful story.

The Art of Personal Storytelling

Personal storytelling is more than just recounting events; it’s about digging deep into the recesses of your soul and uncovering the truths that lie within. It’s about embracing vulnerability and authenticity, laying bare your fears, hopes, and dreams for all to see. And in doing so, you not only connect with your listeners/readers on a profound level but also embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing.

You’re sitting with friends. The laughter has turned to chuckle; the leg pulling to gentle bantering. The mood is introspective, a little thoughtful. As you swap stories, each word carries weight, each sentence paints a picture. This is the essence of personal storytelling—the ability to breathe life into your experiences and share them with the world.

These are your friends, some perhaps of many years. They have witnessed your journey and know of your challenges and victories. Perhaps you don’t need to dot the Is and cross the Ts for them. You are familiar with each other’s language—and body language. An eyebrow raised a fraction of a centimetre is enough to convey your exasperation.

But when you are sharing your life experiences with strangers, through words on a page or screen, you need help to frame your stories. How much is enough? What needs emphasis? Is the story losing its verve in the telling? Should I focus only on one outcome and leave the rest for another day because talking about all of it is diluting the punch of the dominant story?

There are hundreds of such decisions to take. Being so close to your story, emotionally invested in it as you are, your judgment isn’t as objective as it needs to be. The thing that gave you the biggest pain might not be of primary significance when you look at the story in its entirety.

Who will guide you through this labyrinth?

Your Writing Coach

A seasoned guide can be by your side as you navigate the labyrinth of personal storytelling. They understand the nuances of narrative structure. They show you how to dive deep into yourself to find the pearls of insight and wisdom.  

The point of the story—yours or that of a (fictional) character—isn’t to create a dry record of the events you (or they) experienced. The point of a story is in what you learned from having that experience. Your transformation is the nugget a reader too will want to find.

If you have gone through a terrible experience but you did not change a bit as a result… I don’t want to read your story. If you’re going to be as dumb and naïve in the end too, the reader in me will surely feel cheated!

A story is not a photograph of the world as it is! A story is an eclectic and vivid compilation of images—some clear some mere hints—that show how the world can be! To create that vision and hope, where the door to fascinating possibilities stands open, that is the job of the storyteller. How else will you pull yourself out of your mental state and continue on your path with new vigour?

A writing coach is more than just a teacher. She is a mentor, a cheerleader, and a trusted confidant rolled into one. She is there to help you hone your craft, offering constructive feedback and guidance every step of the way. Whether you’re struggling to find your voice or grappling with writer’s block, a writing coach is there to provide encouragement, accountability, and the occasional dose of tough love.

Most importantly, a writing coach is there to help you uncover the stories that lie buried within, guiding you on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Through their expertise and insight, you’ll learn to harness the full power of your narrative voice, transforming your experiences into works of art that resonate with readers.

Explore Personal Storytelling with a Writing Coach

Personal storytelling under the guidance of a writing coach helps you unlock stories and insights you did not think you had! I invite you to take the plunge into the depths of your own narrative voice, guided by the keen eye and steady hand of a writing coach. Trust me when I say the journey will be nothing short of extraordinary.

Contact me to sign-up for my one-on-one coaching program today and unlock the full potential of your narrative voice. Let your story out into the world. Let it bring solace and wisdom to other fellow travellers as they find resonance with your words!

Mother of three adult humans. An idealistic, outspoken woman of scrupulous integrity, in love with words. A storyteller who enjoys crocheting tales. And a passionate bibliophile, of course.